Cleaned up my tags to the stuff I actually care about. Thought I’d go through them, though they are mostly self explanatory.
- Amsterdam - My current home. Lots of beautiful pictures of this great city under this tag.
- Arizona - My home state back in the US. Again, lots of beautiful pictures.
- Boston - My city of birth. Lots of great photos and stuff related to the Red Sox, Patriots, Bruins, Celtics, etc.
- Compersion - This is a strange one. Read about it here.
- Daily Show - Love this show. I’m constantly posting stills, and love following this tag.
- Dave Matthews Band - Favorite band (bring on the haters). Lots of pretty pictures here too. And stupid teenage girls posting lyrics from “Crash Into Me.” *gag*
- Emma Stone - Come on, she’s fucking gorgeous.
- f1.4 and f1.8 - These are photographer’s F-stop settings, and they generally mean a photograph with shallow depth of field (aka, that blurriness you find in awesome photography). These are great tags to follow (as well as #50mm) to see some beautiful pictures.
- Open Relationship - Nice to keep up on what’s going on in this tag since I myself am in an open relationship.
- Polyamory - I’m not exactly polyamorous but this is still a relevant tag along with open relationships and compersion.
Have any suggestions for great tags to follow? Post your tags and share what they mean to you!
I am glad…
… that people are looking into Newt Gingrich’s marital infidelities.
I am not glad, however, that they are using the opportunity to mock and vilify open marriages. Everyone’s talking about it like the idea of an open marriage is a despicable thing. It’s not. It’s a lifestyle choice that two (or more) people can openly and honestly enter into and be happy with.
Gingrich may have wanted an open marriage, but he was never in one. Sleeping around on your wife, and then proposing an open marriage when she finds out about it is not how it works, buddy. Obviously his wife at the time was not interested in it. So he left her.
It’s perfectly fine to criticize Newt Gingrich for attempting to assuage his wife by proposing an open marriage. And it’s perfectly fine to mock him for attempting to live this lifestyle, and succeeding at being a guy who sleeps around and leaves his wife for a new one when he gets bored while at the same time speaking out about how the values traditional marriage are under attack (especially while being the driving force behind the Clinton/Lewinsky investigation). That’s all fine. Hypocrisy is hypocrisy.
But it’s not okay to make a mockery of the idea of open marriage itself.
We’re starting to see a trend where homosexuality is becoming more and more accepted into society (even among conservatives). Some say it’s the last hurdle in the civil rights movement, but there’s another one very close to it, and that’s the world of open relationships, polyamory and the like.
One day it may be perfectly legal for two men or two women to marry anywhere in the country, but the chances of that also including three-person marriages (or four, or five, etc) is highly unlikely. Hopefully after one, the other follows shortly thereafter.
Infidelity does not break marriages up; it is the unreasonable expectation that a marriage must restrict sex that breaks a marriage up. One of the reasons I wrote the book is that I’ve seen so many long-term relationships broken up simply because one had sex outside the relationship. But feeling victimized isn’t a natural outcome of casual sex outside a relationship; it is a socialized victimhood. I’m not advocating cheating; I’m advocating open and equitable sexual relationships. When both in the couple desire this, when both realize that extra-dyadic sex makes their partner happy, and they therefore want their partner to have that sex, a couple will have moved a long ways toward facilitating emotional honesty, while simultaneously withering at jealousy scripts, which can be very damaging to a relationship. But if one can’t achieve this with a partner that’s hostile to the idea, cheating is the reasonable action.
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